How many times has this happened to you in the last year? Wait…how about in the last 30 days? It’s Tuesday afternoon, and you haven’t posted today. You’re scrolling the reels feed, looking for ideas of what you could post and what reels you could create, but you’re drawing a blank. Nothing feels easy or “right.” And the idea of changing outfits just to fit the aesthetic B-roll of all the reels you’re seeing sounds horrifying. You have to post today, and let’s face it, you don’t want to. Wouldn’t you thank Past You if they’d thought ahead and pre-scheduled your social media posts to go up today? Then you wouldn’t be sitting here stressing, trying to figure out your next move. In fact, wouldn’t you jump up and down and maybe even smooch Past You if they’d thought this far ahead and made Current You’s day that much easier???
December has to be one of the hardest months for many people, honestly, most often, me included. I find myself not always finding the joy and peace that is said to be abundant in this month and instead finding stress, obligations, and frustration. This year I’ve made some big life decisions. This means where I’m choosing to find my holiday joy and peace this season don’t lie in the usual places. Instead, I’m going to have to take it upon myself to find it in new, exciting haunts. I want to share with you what I’ve been doing this season to find peace and joy within myself and the world around me. Especially when right now, it feels pretty hard to do so. I want to be clear that not everyone celebrates Christmas anyways. Some people don’t celebrate any holidays and some choose to celebrate old traditions rather than holidays.
In today’s digital age, social media has become an integral part of our lives. It’s a platform where we can connect with others, share our thoughts and experiences, and build our personal brands. However, the pressure to present a perfect image online can be overwhelming, leading many to hide behind a mask of inauthenticity. In this blog post, we’ll explore why it’s essential to show up authentically on the Internet and the benefits it can bring. The Challenges of Being Vulnerable Online There are definitely days and times when I don’t feel like showing up and being vulnerable. And talking about what’s on my mind or what it feels like to be a vulnerable human or a human in the world today. And sometimes I just want to squirrel it away. Honestly, on those days, I tend not to show up on social media, as I’m sure people have noticed.
Written by Someone Who Has It A couple of years ago, I wrote a blog post on Medium about my own experiences with ADHD and how what I’ve learned over the past several years can help others with ADHD and friends and family looking to support their loved ones with ADHD. In this blog post today, I wanted to expand a little bit further and also add in additional layers to the conversation that I’ve encountered over the past couple of years. ADHD Treatment Must Be Multi-Faceted in its Support For me, since my diagnosis in 2016, I have been on an ever-evolving journey to find adequate and helpful treatment for my ADHD. I have tried medications, support apps, coaching, educational programs, productivity tools, and more. I’ve tried just about everything it feels like–and each option has helped in its own way. Some have been downright unhelpful, too, but for
I personally have lived with anxiety my entire life. Well, as long as I can remember. It isn’t easy and it’s not fun. But as I’ve learned during the past several years is that if you live with anxiety it’s crucial that you also know a good deal of coping skills to combat that anxiety. Anxiety disorders are actually the most common mental health disorder in the United States. They may strike at any time, and often without warning. It is estimated that up to 18% of adults will experience an anxiety disorder in their lifetime. Grounding techniques for anxiety are a great form of coping skill to help you feel more centered and in control when you start feeling anxious. They can center us in the present moment by bringing our attention away from thoughts about the past or future, which can fuel anxiety. Here, are 5 grounding techniques
Tips From Someone Who Has It In 2016 I was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). If you don’t know, ADHD suggests that I experience an inability to focus and will often feel restless. I also get distracted easily and sometimes struggle to finish what I’ve started. ADHD has been a controversial topic in the scientific and mental health communities for a long time. When it’s not being misunderstood, it’s being stigmatized. In this blog post, we’re going to debunk some myths about ADHD and I’ll give you some tips on how you can support a friend with ADHD. So, let’s jump in!: What is ADHD? First, what is ADHD? This is a question I often get asked. ADHD is a common, but complex neurodevelopmental disorder. In order to understand what ADHD is, it’s important to know the basics of how the brain works. You have two important parts
As I was reading articles on Medium this week I came across the quote, “Allow yourself to be a beginner. No one starts at the top.” And it prompted me to think about how I combat the comparison trap as a new novel writer in an established field I think one of the most difficult things I’ve encountered as an entrepreneur and now specifically as a writer, is this need and desire to compare my first draft to someone else’s 10 to 20-year career. Essentially, I’m comparing my first draft to the final draft that ends up on the bookshelves at Barnes & Noble. In all truth, I don’t always compare my first draft to a final draft of another author but I do often compare my second or third drafts to theirs. It can be difficult to read a book for inspiration, information, or modeling without getting down in
“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” — Oprah Winfrey Lovely happy African American woman daydreams, embraces herself, recalls romantic date, feels comfort, keeps hands across body sensually, has broad smile, wears yellow sweater, poses indoor. Okay, all my mental health warriors, let’s talk about self-care and how it affects every one of us. The concept of self-care is vast. It’s not super specific and that’s because it varies from person to person. But let’s be clear, at its core, self-care means taking care of yourself mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally. For some people that means getting a massage. For other people, that can mean taking a walk in the park. But what I try and focus on is the basic, most boring form of self-care. And that is just what you do to fill our cup and get
Most of us go around with negative thoughts cluttering our brains. And that is why some form of practicing positive self-talk is so important. It’s the kryptonite of your self-critic’s comments. What doesn’t make it any better is watching the news and tv, spending hours on social media, or reading diet cultured magazines. This can really easily leave us caught up in the world’s hate and even other people’s negative thinking. On top of our own! That’s the last thing we truly need. Let’s talk in this story about what positive talk actually is, the benefits of speaking to yourself with kindness, and lastly, how you can distinguish between that negative self-talk and positive self-talk. What is self-talk? First of all, what in the world is self-talk in general? Self-talk at its most basic level is the running dialogue inside our heads. That inner monologue consists of the thoughts we
Hard Truth: You’re not selling well online or on social media, even though you think you are. You probably have known there’s something off with your business, but you don’t know what it is. As an neurodivergent business owner, Do you keep finding yourself comparing your successes to other successful entrepreneurs and feeling like they have some special tools or skills that you’re missing out on? Or maybe you feel like your skills aren’t up to par compared to others in your field. Feeling like you know your stuff but also like you know nothing? If any of these sound familiar, then this article is probably written just for you! Keep reading… Hi! I’m Nia Patterson, an entrepreneur who has built at least 5 businesses from the ground up in various fields and has several more on the way. Almost all of my businesses involve using social media to sell
Let’s talk about having ADHD first If you have ADHD, it can be difficult to manage your time and workload. It’s also hard to stay focused on a task when there are so many distractions in the world around you. When it comes to social media, that difficulty can translate into an inability to post regularly or even at all (hello, ADHD paralysis!), but there’s a way to make sure these apps don’t become another overwhelming distraction in your life! Here are 6 Ways that I have found helpful when managing my ADHD while also trying to show up and create content on social media. 1: Know what you’re struggling with The first step to solving a problem is understanding the problem. The same goes for social media and ADHD. If you don’t know what’s going on, it’s hard to fix it or change things to make them work better.
If you grew up with a parent who struggled with self-esteem and body image issues, it can leave a lasting impact on how you perceive yourself. Here are four steps to help you boost your body image and break free from the shadow of your mother’s self-doubt. 1. Stop Taking Everyone’s Two Cents I know that this step is much easier said than done. If you, like me, grew up in your mother’s shadow of body hatred and self-doubt, then as a result, you can often end up absorbing those comments and taking them to heart much more than anyone ever meant us to. And if that’s what we learned as kids, then it only makes sense that as we grew up, what others said about us and their opinions of us have defined our self-worth. I want to be clear that I doubt that, in some cases, your parents
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